I understand that I am a recovering middle child, but sometimes my rebellion days creep into areas of my life that I don’t want to rebel in. I want to want the celery. I wish I wanted to run up hills, or to clean my blinds, or to write out Christmas cards, or… Not so, my friend, but this is where I have learned to tap into creativity to achieve my goals and avoid a life of rigid rules.
I first made the connection between creativity and goals when I was diagnosed with Celiac disease. Everyone’s cheerful solution to my limited food choices was to “just have a salad”. Being the logical and grounded person that I am, both personally and professionally, I developed a rage towards salad.
Then, one day, my pity party was rudely interrupted by a thought: ‘what if this wasn’t a limitation, but an invitation?’ What?! What if the new rule, “no gluten” was an invitation to experiment with other foods and recipes? Everyone who knows me knows that I am not a culinary diva. However, I love a challenge and a chance to be creative.
Reframing limitation -> Challenge/Opportunity + Creativity = Possibility
I started playing with recipes, and I developed a mad crush on different soups. (Sadly, I must report, salads and I have not been able to resolve our differences, and for the time being, we have decided to part ways.) A whole new world opened up to me, and, three years later, I don’t miss gluten.
What we focus on determines our experience.
It is ok, and sometimes necessary, to acknowledge what will be sacrificed in order to achieve a desired outcome. Focusing solely on the sacrifice, however, will chew through willpower and create greater suffering. Instead, ask yourself the following questions to create a new inspired focal point:
What is my compelling “why”, for creating this change?
How can I make this change fun?
How do I want to experience this process of growth/change?
Who do I want to be in this process? What kind of parent, spouse, child, professional..?
If I applied creativity to this goal, what would that look like?
Outside of myself, who will benefit from this? Is that worth it?
1. the state or quality of being creative.2. the ability to transcend traditional ideas, rules, patterns, relationships, or the like, and to create meaningful new ideas, forms, methods, interpretations, etc.; originality, progressiveness, or imagination: the need for creativity in modern industry; creativity in the performing arts.
Creativity is an infinite resource that resides in all of us. You can call on this resource to create a much more pleasant experience of growth or goal attainment. You can also use it to create new refreshed focal points that will carry you through the beautifully turbulent process of change.
Defy limitations through creative thought, not through rebellion. Results will follow.
Defy on, my friend.